5 Simple Ways to Believing in Yourself

I know we all like to think that we believe in ourselves to some degree but do we truly realize the cost of not being all in. When it comes to ourselves we know exactly what makes us happy, what annoys us, our fears, dreams…you get the picture. Nobody knows ourselves better than ourselves yet we are also our very own worst enemy. When you consider how we interact with our friends and family it’s a shame we don’t carry those same values when we consider ourselves. We are always kind to those we love but when it comes to being kind to ourselves we are way off base.
Like anybody I would look in the mirror and count my grey hairs, grimace at my wrinkles (creating even more wrinkles) grab at my muffin top and let the feeling of being inadequate wash over me. Somehow and for reasons I am not quite sure of, the way I began to look at myself changed. When I tried to understand how this was to be I came out with a few ideas that I believe changed the way I looked at myself.
1. Purpose: I started living with a purpose in my heart. Just existing wasn’t enough anymore I wanted to be an active participant in my life. My purpose in life became more than being myself it evolved into being a good role model for my son. In addition to being a good role model I knew that the way I handled myself in all aspects of my life would make the mold for what my son would demand out of his. I didn’t need to set the bar high as I didn’t want my son to feel that obscene pressure that sometimes come when expectations are too high. My purpose was to teach him and get him ready for everything he was going to be in his life.
2. Passion: To live life without passion is to not live at all. Everybody should live a life where they are consummed with a zest and vitality for life. You should wake up everyday with a fire in your heart desiring for more. Passion makes your dreams into a reality and fills your heart with so much joy. My passion has always been to nurture and take care of our sweet animals. The look in their eyes are the way it feels when they finally succomb to being loved is out of this world. My passion brought my dreams of being able to help animals into everything I do. I continue to reach for the stars and am determined to make a difference. No mater how small every penny counts.
3. Invest in yourself: You have to fully jump in with both feet if you expect anybody else to follow you. Why on earth would anybody invest in you if you aren’t willing to do the same. Failing to do so shows your hesitation, that maybe somehow, somewhere failing is an option. You really do need to fully believe in yourself. Imagine any sales person trying to sell something they don’t believe in. You can see through them and you know that there is a better option out there that they aren’t sharing. I know I am a great option my heart is pure and I want nothing more than to help. I will find a way to give back. Something out there has to work. That is me once again investing time into myself. I have committed 20 years to see if this will catch on. Nothing that I will do is considered failing everything helps.
4. Be an active particpant in your life: So many times we prefer to sit on the sidelines than to be an active participant. Nothing bad ever happens when I sit at home and watch tv, nothing good ever happens either. I couldn’t sit any longer scrolling through the sad stories on facebook. Watching the violence, neglect and cruelty that was almost a guarantee everyday was enough to drive one mad. The way humans treat not only each other but their apparent best friend is shocking. There are so many shelters that are over capacity and stretch to the max that I knew that I could be somebody that could help relieve the financial strains that come with the territory. If I could get the community involved and make them aware I am sure I could make a difference. Educating and fundraising is now a staple when it comes to my non proft. Every month I will pick an organization in our community to highlight. My fundraising efforts will go towards their costs and I will take the month to get to know everything that I can about them. There’s a disconnect between our local shelters and our community and I want to help bridge the gap.
5. Be humble. At the end of the day we are all human. We are all subject to the same pressures and mistakes. Once we are able to see each other for the wonderful beings that each and every one of us are the world will be a better place. Nobody is ever better than anybody else. The only person we should be comparing ourselves to is the person we were yesterday. Each day is opportunity to get more out of life. To educate, to love, to inspire. At the end of each day if we can’t reflect back with a sense of accomplishment and pride it is time to reevaluate. Maybe the way we measure our individual success and happiness is skewed. It is easy to get sucked into this vortex of despair. We can so easily compare ourselves to the Joneses and beat ourselves bit by bit. Being humble means we recognize our differences and we see each other as equals. Nobody’s value is any greater. Our lives are free for us to live in the light that we wish and we should hope that our fellow humans also have the same luxury.
It’s ok to not have the best of everything, designer clothes, car. Material items will never define who we are. Nothing compares to the value that you hold in your heart, the characteristics that build your framework and the song that makes you sing. I can look in the mirror and embrace my grey hairs and my wrinkles because I know that I earned them from a life well lived.

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4 Comments Add yours

  1. Nice post here Friend. I agree with literally all of your points here. The points you listed would indeed help a person in building confidence. Another important thing that really helps in building one’s confidence in having a solid relationship with God. God is reliable and dependable, and he has dominion over all things. When a person has God, the person has everything, because God has the power to provide them with all that they need. Knowing that God has your back, and is working behind the scenes to make sure that everything works out well for you is amazing. God would show you that he is more than enough for you, no matter how hard or tough the situation is. A person who has God can sleep happy and be rest assured that everything is under control, and that leads to confidence, and I am talking serious divine confidence. We all could benefit from a relationship with the Lord. Do you have a relationship with the Lord yet? If you do not yet have one, I would strongly suggest that you begin one, it is beyond the best relationship. If you already have one, that is great, keep working to deepen your relationship with him.

    The bible says in Psalm 37:4
    “Take delight in the Lord,
    and he will give you the desires of your heart”.

    May God’s blessings be with you, Amen. ❤ ❤

    If you want to know about God in more detail, you can find further information here https://christcenteredruminations.wordpress.com/2018/10/23/a-few-things-that-i-have-learned-about-god/ And Here https://christcenteredruminations.wordpress.com/2018/08/29/how-to-build-a-relationship-with-god/


    1. The relationship one has with God is super important as well. The reassurance and faith that one feels is super important as well ❤ Thank you so much for reading, commenting and providing me the opportunity to keep learning. I will certainly take a read of both posts as all knowledge is power and when it comes to spirituality you can never have enough ❤

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      1. Thank you sister, May the Lord be your strength, Amen.


      2. And he yours ❤

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